The myth of 50/50 timesharing

Since the passing of the new parenting bill, many have believed that Florida is now a 50/50 time sharing state. While the words "custodial" and/or "primary residential" parent are no longer used, this does not mean that children will spend equal time with each parent in each and every case.

First, Nothing in the Florida law says that there is to be equal time with each parent. Instead, the law makes it clear that timesharing is to be determined based upon the unique circumstances of each and every family. There are several factors which judges need to review in order to make this decision, including, the amount of time each parent spends with the children and the amount of involvement in specific parenting tasks. The simple statement by a parent that he or she wants 50/50 timesharing simply is not enough.

Second, as most of us recognize, there simply cannot be a "one size fits all" approach to parenting. What works for one family may not work for another. It is also important to keep in mind that the standard is what is in the best interest of the child. Although this would seem to be on everyone's mind, those that fight to divide their children's time to be exactly equal may be ignoring the wants and needs of the particular child or children. How much time a child spends with either parent depends on the age of the child, the activities of the child and other factors. This does not mean, and judge would appear to agree, that it is always in the children's best interest to spend only alternating weekends with one parent either. The bottom line is that any parenting plan and timesharing schedule needs to be tailored to the particular family, with special consideration to the needs of the children involved

What Florida’s parenting bill will and will not do

I received numerous comments on the last blog entry, most equal in their convictions either for or against the new law. Based on the comments I read, there appears to be confusion as to what the new law actually does.
First, the law does not automatically provide for joint and rotating custody. This is the most important misunderstanding that needs to be correct. The law rewrites the entire statute, eliminating phrases such as “primary” and “secondary” parent as well as the words “visitation” and “custody”. These concepts were viewed as insulting to parents and often caused parties to litigate over who would receive which label. The “new” concept, really not new at all, is that both parents have the right to parent their children and share time with them. This only means that children are not viewed as possessions and parents as having a rank in terms of importance. We begin with the premise that both parents are equal in their children’s lives.
When it comes to the timesharing arrangements and the parenting plan, the court will still, as it has always tried to do, take into account the best interests of the children. The new law left out language about joint and rotating custody and, instead, gave judges a checklist of factors, some old and some new, to evaluate in determining time sharing between the two parents, including the history of involvement by both parents. This, of course, assumes that the judge has to make that decision and I’ve never met a judge who wanted to do that. There is no aspect of a divorce that parties are more strongly encourage to work out on their own than the time they spend with their children. And the new law has given them yet another way to encourage parties to do that.
In all Florida divorce cases where there are minor children, the parents are required to submit a detailed parenting plan. The plan specifies who will do what and the where’s and when’s of the parents interaction with their children. This portion is still being fine tuned by the legislative portion of the Florida Bar, but the goal is to eliminate conflict over who drives to soccer practice, whether the children contact mom or dad on their cell phones and a multitude of other issues which would previously have to be addressed in front of a judge, at a cost of two lawyers and a good deal of wait time.
Last, but not least, the new law provides a form of recourse when either parent does not abide by the time sharing schedule. This is designed to eliminate a situation where one parent seeks additional time with the children to avoid paying the full amount of child support which would otherwise be required.
It is too early to say how the judges will apply the new law. That information will come in time. But the hope is that the new law will eliminate many of the bitter contested battles that have plagued family courts, families, and, most importantly, children.